Tohle neb\u00fdv\u00e1 pronesen\u00e1 v\u011bta d\u00edt\u011bte, ale jeho skryt\u00e9 a zoufal\u00e9 p\u0159\u00e1n\u00ed. Ve skute\u010dnosti sl\u00fdch\u00e1me nap\u0159. v\u011bty: “Bol\u00ed m\u011b hlava”, “Bol\u00ed m\u011b b\u0159\u00ed\u0161ko” nebo “Nen\u00ed mi dob\u0159e”. D\u00edt\u011b nech\u00e1me doma, nap\u00ed\u0161eme n\u011bkolik omluvenek a celkem se nic ned\u011bje. \u010casem jsou tyto zdravotn\u00ed pot\u00ed\u017ee st\u00e1le intenzivn\u011bj\u0161\u00ed a za\u010d\u00edn\u00e1 n\u00e1m to b\u00fdt podez\u0159el\u00e9. Nav\u0161t\u00edv\u00edme d\u011btsk\u00e9ho l\u00e9ka\u0159e a d\u00e1le specialisty z oblast\u00ed neurologie, gastroenterologie nebo jin\u00e9. Pot\u00ed\u017ee neust\u00e1vaj\u00ed, specialist\u00e9 se nedob\u00edraj\u00ed uspokojiv\u00fdch v\u00fdsledk\u016f, obt\u00ed\u017ee d\u00edt\u011bte v\u011bt\u0161inou nemiz\u00ed a nervozita v rodin\u011b stoup\u00e1 (obzvl\u00e1\u0161t\u011b v ned\u011bli ve\u010der a pond\u011bl\u00ed r\u00e1no).<\/p>\n
Krom\u011b zdravotn\u00edch pot\u00ed\u017e\u00ed d\u00edt\u011bte mohou nastat pot\u00ed\u017ee psychick\u00e9ho r\u00e1zu. D\u00edt\u011b nen\u00ed ve sv\u00e9 k\u016f\u017ei, reaguje podr\u00e1\u017ed\u011bn\u011b nebo jinak ne\u017e obvykle. Leckdy se p\u0159id\u00e1v\u00e1 i mal\u00e1 schopnost soust\u0159ed\u011bn\u00ed, zhor\u0161en\u00fd prosp\u011bch ve \u0161kole, apatie nebo naopak agrese, pot\u00ed\u017ee se sp\u00e1nkem. N\u011bkter\u00e9 d\u00edt\u011b m\u016f\u017ee tak\u00e9 tajn\u011b telefonovat ze \u0161koly nebo \u0161koly v p\u0159\u00edrod\u011b, proto\u017ee je zoufal\u00e9. Ve vypjat\u00e9m obdob\u00ed n\u00e1m m\u016f\u017ee pomoci empatie k d\u00edt\u011bti nebo t\u0159eba jen n\u00e1hoda a situace n\u00e1m za\u010d\u00edn\u00e1 doch\u00e1zet. Mo\u017en\u00e1 ve stejnou chv\u00edli a spole\u010dn\u00fdmi silami za\u010dne doch\u00e1zet i na\u0161emu d\u00edt\u011bti. Nemus\u00ed se toti\u017e nutn\u011b um\u011bt zorientovat v tom, co nen\u00ed v po\u0159\u00e1dku a v\u011bci spr\u00e1vn\u011b pojmenovat. D\u00edt\u011b se stalo ob\u011bt\u00ed soci\u00e1ln\u011b patologick\u00e9ho jevu jm\u00e9nem \u0160IKANA ve \u0161kole.<\/p>\n
\u0160ikana m\u016f\u017ee b\u00fdt r\u016fzn\u00e9ho typu – psychick\u00e1, fyzick\u00e1, tak\u00e9 viditeln\u00e1 nebo pe\u010dliv\u011b skryt\u00e1, r\u016fzn\u00e9ho stadia a intenzity. M\u016f\u017ee se jednat o zd\u00e1nliv\u011b nevinn\u00e9 p\u0159ezd\u00edvky, posm\u011bch, izolaci od kolektivu a\u017e po opakovan\u00e9 fyzick\u00e9 t\u00fdr\u00e1n\u00ed. Nepochybn\u011b se te\u010f za\u010dneme “stra\u0161\u00e1kem” v\u00e1\u017en\u011bji zab\u00fdvat, sedneme k internetu a hled\u00e1me informace. Informace a pomocnou ruku nab\u00edzej\u00ed n\u011bkter\u00e9 internetov\u00e9 str\u00e1nky (nap\u0159. www.sikana.cz<\/span><\/a>), v\u010detn\u011b str\u00e1nek policie \u010cR<\/span><\/a>. Tak\u00e9 m\u016f\u017eeme “vl\u00edtnout do \u0161koly” a sna\u017eit se probl\u00e9m \u0159e\u0161it p\u0159\u00edmo na m\u00edst\u011b, p\u0159\u00edpadn\u011b volat ostatn\u00edm rodi\u010d\u016fm nebo rodi\u010d\u016fm d\u00edt\u011bte, kter\u00e9 se chov\u00e1 agresivn\u011b a vypt\u00e1vat se. Jen\u017ee b\u00fdv\u00e1me v\u011bt\u0161inou bez d\u016fkaz\u016f, ve t\u0159\u00edd\u011b s d\u011btmi nesed\u00edme, nikdo nic nevid\u011bl, na\u0161e t\u0159\u00edda je vzorn\u00e1 a bezprobl\u00e9mov\u00e1. Mo\u017en\u00e1 se p\u0159ijdeme pod\u00edvat p\u0159\u00edmo do vyu\u010dov\u00e1n\u00ed, ale absolvujeme vzorovou hodinu a jsme na pochyb\u00e1ch.<\/p>\n Z\u00e1ludnost \u0159e\u0161en\u00ed probl\u00e9mu \u0161ikany m\u016f\u017ee spo\u010d\u00edvat v tom, \u017ee jej\u00ed existenci m\u016f\u017ee spolehliv\u011b posoudit pouze jej\u00ed ob\u011b\u0165, jak uv\u00e1d\u00ed ve sv\u00e9 knize \u201eBolest \u0161ikanov\u00e1n\u00ed\u201c p\u0159edn\u00ed \u010desk\u00fd odborn\u00edk Michal Kol\u00e1\u0159. Spr\u00e1vn\u00e9 je \u0159e\u0161it vzniklou situaci na \u00farovni \u0161koly. Ministerstvo \u0161kolstv\u00ed ml\u00e1de\u017ee a t\u011blov\u00fdchovy na sv\u00fdch str\u00e1nk\u00e1ch zve\u0159ej\u0148uje p\u0159esn\u00fd n\u00e1vod, jak postupovat. Nejd\u016fle\u017eit\u011bj\u0161\u00ed jsou tyto dva pojmy: PREVENCE a SPOLUPR\u00c1CE.<\/p>\n Absolvujeme tedy sch\u016fzku, p\u0159\u00edpadn\u011b sch\u016fzek n\u011bkolik a spole\u010dn\u00fdmi silami se sna\u017e\u00edme probl\u00e9m vy\u0159e\u0161it. \u0160kola m\u00e1 v tuto chv\u00edli velk\u00fd potenci\u00e1l nebezpe\u010dn\u00e9 chov\u00e1n\u00ed ve t\u0159\u00edd\u011b odstranit. Nejd\u016fle\u017eit\u011bj\u0161\u00ed \u00falohu hraje t\u0159\u00eddn\u00ed u\u010ditel nebo u\u010ditelka, kte\u0159\u00ed d\u011bti ve t\u0159\u00edd\u011b dob\u0159e znaj\u00ed. Velice d\u016fle\u017eit\u00fd je ov\u0161em i v\u00fdchovn\u00fd poradce, \u0161koln\u00ed psycholog a z\u00e1rove\u0148 vnit\u0159n\u00ed obrann\u00e9 mechanismy \u0161koly. Velkou pozornost v\u011bnuje tomuto t\u00e9matu nap\u0159. Z\u0160 Velvary sv\u00fdm “Programem proti \u0161ikanov\u00e1n\u00ed”.<\/span><\/a> M\u016f\u017ee se st\u00e1t, \u017ee \u0161kola s n\u00e1mi nespolupracuje nebo se p\u0159es snahu postupem \u010dasu nic nezlep\u0161\u00ed a zva\u017eujeme p\u0159echod na \u0161kolu jinou. Je ov\u0161em tato varianta spr\u00e1vn\u00e1 – na\u0161e d\u00edt\u011b odejde, agresor z\u016fstane? Jak se bude situace ve t\u0159\u00edd\u011b d\u00e1le vyv\u00edjet? Atmosf\u00e9ra ve t\u0159\u00edd\u011b se stabilizuje nebo si \u00fato\u010dn\u00edk najde novou ob\u011b\u0165 a probl\u00e9m se bude opakovat? Chce do jin\u00e9ho kolektivu a v\u011bt\u0161inou doj\u00ed\u017ed\u011bt i na\u0161e d\u00edt\u011b? V nelehk\u00e9 situaci n\u00e1m nepochybn\u011b m\u016f\u017ee pomoci d\u011btsk\u00fd psycholog, ale jako nejd\u016fle\u017eit\u011bj\u0161\u00ed se n\u00e1m ukazuje atmosf\u00e9ra d\u016fv\u011bry v rodin\u011b a maxim\u00e1ln\u00ed podpora d\u00edt\u011bte.<\/p>\n Mo\u017en\u00e1 jsme ale touto cestou je\u0161t\u011b nepro\u0161li. Na\u0161e d\u00edt\u011b st\u00e1le bol\u00ed hlava nebo m\u00e1 jin\u00e9 varovn\u00e9 p\u0159\u00edznaky, nesv\u011b\u0159ilo se n\u00e1m a nechce do \u0161koly, kde mu n\u011bkdo z\u00e1m\u011brn\u011b ubli\u017euje a nutn\u011b pot\u0159ebuje na\u0161i pomoc. Nep\u0159\u00edjemn\u00e9 z\u00e1\u017eitky ho mohou v\u00fdrazn\u011b ovliv\u0148ovat i v budoucnu a pokazit jeho vztah ke vzd\u011bl\u00e1n\u00ed jako takov\u00e9mu. \u0160r\u00e1m\u016fm na d\u011btsk\u00e9 du\u0161i mus\u00edme zamezit v\u010das a nezklamat d\u016fv\u011bru, pokud n\u00e1m ji d\u00edt\u011b sv\u011b\u0159\u00ed.<\/p>\n Zuzana Musilov\u00e1<\/p>\n Pozn. autorky: D\u011bkuji v\u0161em recenzent\u016fm za cenn\u00e9 p\u0159ipom\u00ednky.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Tohle neb\u00fdv\u00e1 pronesen\u00e1 v\u011bta d\u00edt\u011bte, ale jeho skryt\u00e9 a zoufal\u00e9 p\u0159\u00e1n\u00ed. Ve skute\u010dnosti sl\u00fdch\u00e1me nap\u0159. v\u011bty: “Bol\u00ed m\u011b hlava”, “Bol\u00ed m\u011b b\u0159\u00ed\u0161ko” nebo “Nen\u00ed mi dob\u0159e”. D\u00edt\u011b nech\u00e1me doma, nap\u00ed\u0161eme n\u011bkolik omluvenek a celkem se nic ned\u011bje. \u010casem jsou tyto zdravotn\u00ed pot\u00ed\u017ee st\u00e1le intenzivn\u011bj\u0161\u00ed a za\u010d\u00edn\u00e1 n\u00e1m to b\u00fdt podez\u0159el\u00e9.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":38,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[111,1],"tags":[586,584,790,585],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/libcickekrizovatky.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9609"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/libcickekrizovatky.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/libcickekrizovatky.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/libcickekrizovatky.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/38"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/libcickekrizovatky.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=9609"}],"version-history":[{"count":6,"href":"https:\/\/libcickekrizovatky.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9609\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":9612,"href":"https:\/\/libcickekrizovatky.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9609\/revisions\/9612"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/libcickekrizovatky.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=9609"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/libcickekrizovatky.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=9609"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/libcickekrizovatky.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=9609"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}